it's so hard to find dbt therapists. and the ones I do find don't take insurance. do you know why that is?
Ahhh I don’t know, I’m from the UK, so I can’t really help you with this question.
Thank you for this blog. Struggling with bpd as well
You’re welcome :) It’s a bitch, right? Keep fighting, sweetie.
Ugh I don't get boys, he messages me first and then just doesn't reply after I do!? He did that last week and this time it was on fb and I didn't catch it for 20min and replied as soon as I saw it. about 40min since I replied he was online again, I don't fuckjng get it please reply to me :( the next day (today) it even says "seen" and STILL no reply. i just dont get why he would message first, i just want to know what he wanted!! my borderline does not help here. should I send another one? :/
Well I can see this from both sides, because I am always starting conversations or asking somebody how they are and then ignoring them once they’ve replied, even if I want to talk to them so I always have that in mind when someone does this to me.
But on the other hand I would totally be the same as you in your position, the borderline in me would be getting annoyed, feeling rejected and thinking the worst. Please try not to catastrophize. Just because he isn’t replying it doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you or doesn’t want to talk to you.
He could genuinely be busy or maybe he was just on facebook to play a game and didn’t feel like talking.
In your position I would send another message, if he’s still ignoring you just take a step back tell yourself he’s busy, try not to take it personally and distract yourself.
I hope he responds soon :)
do you have any tips on how to pick yourself up and get motivated on a day that you just feel like wallowing :( its so hard to get out of bed even just to make food...
I hate this, it’s horrible and sometimes getting out of bed really can be the hardest thing.
However sad and apathetic you are feeling, you are worth so much more. Tell yourself you deserve to be happy, and try to take small steps to do something distracting, I find distraction is the best thing for getting past the bad feelings.
Never listen to sad music, or watch a sad film because it will only make you worse. Watch something light hearted and funny, and listen to music opposite to your mood.
Always try to bath or shower and make it as comforting as you can, bubbles, candles, essential oils, nice smelling products and take time moisturizing afterwards. Self soothing is important. And 8/10 times I will feel slightly better after a bath or shower. (for me, it’s kind of symbolic for washing away the bad feelings)
If you can, try to get outside and go for a walk, the fresh air and exercise will usually help a little.
Just keep fighting it sweetie, please bare in mind that these feelings won’t be with you forever and you will get through it, you will be okay.